I don’t often like to admit that I have a daughter who is in college. I simply cannot be old enough to have a child that old! 😉 But, I do, and since this is her second year in college, I thought maybe these tips to successfully send your kid off to college might be a help to someone else. After all, I’ve been there, done that, and lived to write a blog post about it.
- Start Preparing Early – As soon as you can, start planning on everything your child will need to head off to college. Be sure to shop the Back to School Sales, and stock up on the items your child will need for the year. Most colleges will send a list of items necessary. Use that list as your guide, and grab as much as you can an early as you can. (Be sure to use these Bed Bath & Beyond promo codes – that’s where we got most of the stuff my daughter needed for college.) Remember, there will always be last minute things that come up unexpectedly, so it’s best to be as prepared as possible as early as possible.
- Talk, Talk, Talk – You’ve spent your child’s whole life preparing them for this moment. Be sure they’re really ready by talking with them over everything: finances, safety issues, where to leave valuables, morals, etc. But, even more than talking – listen to your child. Make sure they don’t have any concerns. Help them if they do! Encourage them, and let them know that you’ll only be a phone call away. Talk about everything – from things as insignificant as whether they should sign up for Sling TV, to what happens when they are in an unexpected situation.
- Don’t Fix their Problems – When your child calls home with a dilemma, it’s so easy to want to jump in and fix things for them. This is when you have to let go and trust that they can take care of things on their own. If you want your child to be strong and independent, you have to cut the apron strings and let them go. You’ve done your job, be there to answer questions and give advice, but don’t just take care of their problems for them.
- Know that Your Values are There – It’s so, so hard to let go. I get that. I have 8 kids, and the thought of them all leaving the nest one day tugs at every heart string I have. But, we have children to help train them to become responsible adults. The values and morals you have instilled in them the past 18 years are there. It may take them some time to remember them, but they will. Have faith and trust that you have done your best.
It’s never easy to let go of our children, but you can successfully send your child off to college and trust they will do what’s right.